Practical guidance and personal messages for those considering transitioning and for other transgendered persons.

Inspiration for Living Life & Practical Applications of Psychology

For a long time I have felt that I should have a 'carpe-diem' perspective on life. But it's never been that simple for me. I guess that's because no matter how much I feel happiness is important, I also felt like I needed to do something or be something to satisy some mythically person's judgement of me. I'm not sure why I have done that. Anybody who has an opinion worth caring about, anyone who actually cares about me, wouldn't be judging me anyway. But I have still found it hard to live life. Since I went full-time (being perceived as a girl), I have decided that it's just as important for me to experience life as it is for me to interpret life. I feel experiences, both practical (like preserving your reproductive options if you transition) and spiritual (like inspirational carpe diem poems), are worth sharing with you too.

Reproductive Options for Transsexuals: If you transition you will lose the ability to have children. Even if you change your mind and stop hormones, that could be the end of your reproductive ability. If you're a childless MtF transsexual you might want to consider a sperm bank. If someday you make a life-long committment with another women, maybe you'll want children? Here is a list of cryopreservation facilites across the United States and Canada. FtM transsexuals may also want to contact these places. They may be able to cryopreserve ovaries too!

Suicide: I can understand feeling like suicide is the only option left in your life. This is a short essay I wrote about how I regained control of my life. It also includes resources to help you with your sucidal feelings.

And that was it: Madeline describes some of her earliest 'gender deviant' activities and what she learn about herself from doing this. She offers encouragment to those who are scared to cross gender lines but really want to.

Carpe Diem: Seize the day! This is a collection of quotations, poems, and anecdotes that I hope will inspire you to seize the moment and live your life!

Shaving for Presentation as Female: This is a description of the technique I developed over time to shave as closely as possible and minimize cuts and soreness.

Make-up for the 'Natural Look': This is a descripiton of how I wear my makeup. This make-up advice is not about glamour make-up for nights on the town. It describes "the natural look" for everyday make-up.

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